♥ Becareful

NO MOOD TO WRITE ANYTHING
Wanna kill someone now ~

LaVenDer

♥ Can Have A Nice Sleep

Finally I finished my BM karangan and komsas =)
Wow, so relax ~ Haha. Before going bed, I no need worry about this
My whole afternoon spend at karangan and komsas ( Pity ) ==
Night, go ate " Hei Mee " with Mummy and Da Jie

LaVenDer

♥ Silly

Urgghhh, Grace Tay homework haven't do finish. This Wednesday need to pass up
BM homework at school haven't do finish too. Keep saying in my heart " I am so so so TIRED "
Mathematics still don't know how to draw the graph, because of the " y = mx + c "
Do not want to take EK, but I need it is IMPOSSIBLE to DROP it ==
Science want to recall back what I learn at From 4, but I REALLY REALLY ~!@#$%^&*_+

LaVenDer

♥ It's A Friday

I Love the Friday so so so much, haha
But I hate Friday too, I need to tuition at 6pm ==
My lovely Friday has GONE. Sob Sob
Ms.Tay call me hardworking do Mathematics exercise ( I will try 100 % love do Mathematics )
Next week need to TRAFFIC JAM again. Cry

P/S: Givin's out Friday hugs, have a great weekend

LaVenDer

♥ Tired

Actually I wanna post a lot new article. But I keep delay and delay, that's why until now I only free. Keep busy with the study and homework @___@ Everyday same like a crazy person. Non stop going tuition, school, dancing class and do my homework. Today after I finish tuition, I saw a vagrant dog at the bridge ( I am walking to go back and wait my brother come to pick me up ) The dog was really look alike with my dog, haha. Same colour with Day Day, but the vagrant dog is a boy. Of course, my Day Day is a girl. Haha

Today going Account tuition with Ju Yuan, Xue Kee, Jia En and I. I was feel so sleepy at the class, feel wanna go back and straight away sleep at Delta == ( Oii, so silly >< ) I am trying all my best attention what teacher are teaching. Finally, a lot question do not know how to do. Because I am not listen what == ( Waste the money go tuition, haizzz ) Recently I am so enjoy the school life and I never fall as sleep when teacher are teaching. Wow, congratulations to myself =) First time done it so well, I am a good girl right ? Haha. Hmm, I think our Sivik teacher was really crazy when she enter our class ><>

P/S: Somebody has no reply my message ? Where are you ? AFRAID ?

LaVenDer

♥ Qualification

You have no qualification to control me
Thank you ~

LaVenDer

♥ Why Do People Gossip ?

Obviously everyone has a different reason for gossiping. I have found that people gossip for one of the following reasons :

To fill in the void in conversation

People in general do not like silence. It seems everyone is afraid of silence. That is why sometimes meditation, or quieting of the mind is so challenging for a lot of people. Whenever there is a silence in a conversation, people tend to get nervous and often try to fill in the void by gossiping.

Lack of general knowledge

Not knowing enough about other interesting subjects to talk about, thus resorting to gossip. The society is designed in such a way that people often start specializing in particular professions from an early age. This limits their thinking and their knowledge to that direction only. This is not their fault. There is only so much time in a day and there is so much information pertaining to each profession and increasing so much and at such a rapid pace that it is hard enough just to keep up with it. In the end people seem to acquire a lot of knowledge about their own subject but outside of that, their general knowledge is limited unless they make a special effort. That is the reason that unless the topic being discussed is of their profession, they do not have much to contribute and they resort to gossip.

To belong to a group

If everyone is gossiping and you do not, then you feel left out and thus eventually you join in as well. There is no place that gossip is more evident than a workplace. Everyone joins in the gossiping sessions and it feels like a one big happy family.

Now if everyone is at this gossiping meeting, who are they talking about you may ask ? Well, they’re talking about people in the other department. Does this mean that everyone in the other department is so bad? What if you were to get shifted in the other department? What would you do now ? Of course, you would talk about the department that you just left.

Now what if you do not feel like gossiping or you are just not that type of a person ? Then you do not belong and you are an outcast.

Inferiority Complex

If people do not have healthy self-esteem, they are more likely to engage in gossip. If someone is doing better than them, they feel good by gossiping about that person. People can not just be better, there has to be an unethical, if not an illegal reason. Underneath it all, everyone has a dark side.

How many times have we heard these terms ?

• He is getting ahead because he knows whose back to scratch, how to kiss the right ass but I am just not that type of a person. I am an honest and hard working person
• He is getting ahead because he knows how to play the politics
• He gets good grades because he is teacher’s pet
• He knows the art of flattery that’s why he can easily get jobs and get ahead

Also, if people are feeling bad, knowing that there is someone else who is doing just as bad or even worse often makes them feel better. The easiest way to ensure that is the case is to start the gossip or rumour about others.

Taking revenge on people who constantly put you down

We have all known people that are loud and obnoxious. These people like to be the center of attention. If you oppose their point of view, whether one on one or in a meeting or gathering, these people can easily put you down and can turn downright nasty. The person on the receiving side may feel humiliated but unable to offer a comeback may resort to gossip later on. This again goes back to the lack of healthy self-esteem. Person with a healthy self-esteem may take the whole thing as a joke and not think about it anymore but a person with a low self-esteem can easily get offended and remember it for the rest of his life. This does not even have to be in public though it feels worst if you are being talked down to in front of others. There are some people who will constantly talk down to you even if it is just the two of you. Again, either you deal with it one on one with them or bad mouth them behind their back as many do.

Unmasking and showing the real side of people

If everyone believes that a certain person is a really hard working and a good person and you know that to be completely false, do you keep that to yourself or do you set to unmask that person ? You know that they are good at one thing and that is exaggerating their accomplishments and taking credit for other people’s work. What if you deserve praise or credit on a project and another ends up taking all the credit because of their “smooth talk” ? How do you handle such a situation? In fact you could be assertive and set the record straight or you could set out to show the real side of that person by gossiping about him.

Show the real side of people who get undeserved praise

Just like in the situation mentioned above, what if people are getting undeserved praise? And what if it has nothing to do with you ? Do you consider it your responsibility to set the record straight about that person even though they have not wronged you ? Do you gossip about that person just because they are fooling others ?

LaVenDer

♥ Happy Sunday

How I spend my Sunday ? Busy with my homework, haha ><
Mathematics == So headache when I saw the number @__@
I need to WORK HARD !!!

Before I go out =)
Cut my hair before school reopen. Haha

Wow, just now keep raining. But I still want to hang out with my family =)

I TREASURE my family time. FOREVER
We enjoy the dinner at Bunger King. Da jie suddenly want to eat Burger King. Haha
Night, I play this with my sister. I won it, YEAH ~
LaVenDer

♥ Saturday

Today I woke up around 8.30 a.m, because I have to go tuition at 10.00 a.m
Ok. Let's us back to my tuition. It's quite boring but I still need to listen what teacher saying ><
Friends is not coming today, they are go for Thursday. If I go for Thursday I felt so sleepy
What should I do ? Aiiikkks. I will try my best sleep early at Wednesday
But Wednesday I whole day not are home, really make me so confused about it ==
Skip* After I finished my tuition, my mummy wait me at bridge
Haha. I am so excited because my mummy wait me at there. You know ?
Stop here. This few day I felt so TIRED

LaVenDer

♥ 10 Ways To Find a Relationship

There are many circumstances that create the perfect storm for a deep committed relationship. In addition to compatibility you need good timing, luck and both parties must be willing to commit.

1. Communicate More

You might be heading into a serious relationship without even knowing it. It's tough to know it if you don't talk about it, or say how you feel. Of course, this kind of conversation should be strategic and well-timed. But if you both continue dating without acknowledging verbally that things are getting deeper and more intense, you're just treading water. Make sure you both are on the same page; this is a key component to taking the next step from dating to relationship.

2. Don't Take The Best One For Granted

We all know that good boyfriends / girlfriends are not a dime a dozen. But that doesn't stop us from taking a good one for granted sometimes, or wondering if there is someone else out there. Remember how hard it is to find someone special, and you'll feel lucky every day. If you take someone for granted, they might turn into the one that got away.

3. Step Up Your Efffort

Committed relationships are not easy. There's an element of a natural fit, but all relationships require work. The main reason I'm so bad at committing is because I'm lazy. No room for laziness if you're going to be in a good relationship. You have to be ready for things to get more intense and accept the responsibility of a serious relationship.

4. Stop Seeing Other People

There are many reaons for seeing other people: keeping your options open, protetcting yourself from getting in too deep, etc. But if you're going to be in a committed relationship, you obviously can't see other people. Time to break off any other little side project.

5. Don't Second Guess Yourself

It's easy to doubt your feelings every now and then, but you have to limit the second guessing so it doesn't limit your relationship. Sure, it's tough to know if you really like someone, but a lot of times it's all in your head and you talk yourself in to and out of things instead of just going with your gut.

6. Remember You Deserve It

I run into the problem that, because of my Italian-Catholic guilt, my crisis thinking, and my over-analysis of everything, I don't deserve it when good things happen to me. Or, I figure that once something good happens, then a bunch of bad things have to happen to offset the good thing. Chances are, you're not as insane I am, so remember you do deserve a great relationship.

7. Take A Risk

When when you decide to be in a serious relationship, it feels like you're taking a leap off a cliff (and maybe you are). Every relationship involves an element of risk, and have to go for it once you decide to do it.

8. See It As A Beginning, Not An Ending

Men look at that "plunge" as the end of single life, the end of freedom and the last gasp of immaturity. But we should learn to see a commitment as a beginning instead of an ending. It's the beginning of a new life, and more meaningful relationship with a person you care deeply for.

9. Recognize The Signs

Make sure you acknowledge when something feels different in a good way. I tend to gloss over good things, or miss signals. Don't ignore it, go with it.

10. Grow Up

If you get into a serious relationship, it's time to stop one night stands, stop getting waste to much and stop going everywhere in groups with your friends. Priorities and time budgeting certainly change once you're in a relationship.

Do you agree or disagree with my list above ? What adjustments and strategies do you think are useful to go from a "dater" to more of a "relationship" person ?

LaVenDer

♥ New Day

OMG !!!!!! I am totally busy today == HELP !!!!!!!No time to rest, I NEED more time
I am feel so stress NOW, I am not giving myself it to early. But I feel that @_@
I will try my best don't be lazy :D
Today went to dancing class, teacher say i am lost weight ?? How come ?
Maybe I get sick this few week. Sob sob T___T

LaVenDer

♥ Form 5 First Day

Today I start my Form 5 life - a great life and fullness meaningful. My class teacher still the same -> Encik. Teo. I am giving him teacher Math, my Math will pass at this year ?? I really hope so. By the way, Sejarah giving Cik.Chong. She is a great Sejarah teacher, haha. She teached before my first and second sister. Is that FAKE ? LOL

Hmm, today afternoon have a lot parents bring their son come to school. I am recall back when I Form 1 :D That day should be my daddy bring me go S.M.K Sri Istana. ( I am super against to study there, but no choice, I need !!! ) I think that is my daddy first time bring me go to school, since when i Primary =___= Ok. Let's back about today ^^ I am saw a handsome boy after school, haha. He is a very cute boy, I told Yee Ching he was so handsome. LOL

Stop here. Be hardworking now. You can do it =)

LaVenDer

♥ 7-Day Ultimate Diet Cleanse

Today morning online I saw some new - 7 day ultimate diet cleanse
Girls can have a look at below =) Enjoy it

Don't

1. DON'T add sugar, other natural sweeteners (including honey, agave, and stevia), or artificial sweeteners to anything. Sugar, honey, and other calorie-containing sweeteners add 60 calories per tablespoon to your day's intake, so you'll save considerable calories by cutting out the sugar you typically add to your coffee, tea, cereal, beverages, yogurts, etc. Artificially sweetened foods may not have the calories of sugar-sweetened foods, but they keep sweetness on our taste buds and our minds. I recommend cutting out all added sugars (real and artificial) for at least a week to help you break free of your compulsion to eat sweet foods. Then, minimize your intake going forward.

2. DON'T add salt to anything. Eating foods with a lot of added salt causes you to retain water, which drives up the number on the scale and makes you feel uncomfortable. Part of my week-long cleanse is getting rid of salty foods that promote bloating.

3. DON'T eat starches with dinner (including bread, rice, pasta, peas, beans, corn and potatoes). People tend to overeat starches for a number of reasons: these foods have great mouth feel, it's hard to estimate portions, they're some of America's favorite comfort foods, and they're calorie-dense. People are especially conditioned to overeat these foods at dinner. By making them totally off-limits, you don't have to cut yourself off mid-meal (after you've already primed your tastebuds).

4. DON'T drink alcohol. Alcohol adds a lot of empty calories to your diet, plus it lowers your inhibitions so you're more likely to veer off plan and make unhealthy food choices. By cutting out the alcohol, you'll give your liver a well needed break and you'll have firmer resolve to stick with the rest of the diet's "do's and don'ts."

DO

1. DO eat on a schedule and enjoy three meals and one snack each day.

2. DO drink lots of water throughout the day, including two 8-ounce glasses before lunch and two 8-ounce glasses before dinner. (These before-meal waters should be consumed up to 30 minutes before eating.) Enjoy as much additional water as you want during meals and throughout the day.

3. DO enjoy "water alternatives" in unlimited quantities at any point during the day. These include: coffee or tea with 1% or skim milk only, seltzer (plain and naturally flavored), sparkling water, club soda, or water with lemon/lime/orange wedges.

4. DO begin dinner with a healthy appetizer: a large tossed salad (with 2-3 tablespoons reduced-calorie dressing); a bowl of broth-based non-starchy veggie* soup; or any plain vegetable such as a sliced cucumber, red pepper sticks or green beans.

5. DO indulge in non-starchy vegetables* in unlimited quantities at any time throughout the day, particularly when you get hungry between designated meal and snack times.

6. DO engage in 30 to 60 minutes of aerobic exercise everyday (walking is fine).

*Non-starchy vegetables include: asparagus, beets, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, carrots, cauliflower, celery, cucumber, green leafy vegetables, eggplant, green beans, mushrooms, okra, onion, peppers, radishes, snow peas, tomato, and zucchini.

Get ready to cleanse your system and blast away fat and reveal a happier, healthier

LaVenDer

♥ Happy New Year 2010

Happy New Year 2010

Wish everyone have a nice day =)

My biggest present at 2010 - Sick
Can't do anything what I want T______T
School going reopen, meet my friend on monday :D

LaVenDer

♥ Tagged By Edson & Desrine

1. 你最希望从朋友(不包括爱人)那里得到的是什麼?
--> Friendship forever

2. 最近最郁闷的事?
--> Hmm, got a lot troublem things

3. 最受不了自己的哪个缺点?
--> A lot ><>

4. 难过的时候会?
--> Cry & tell mummy

5. 说出点你名的人3个优点(不可删除题)
--> Edson : Nice, Kind, Friendly
--> Desrine : Good girl ><

6. 今年的圣诞节,你快乐吗?
--> Not bad

7. 你现在最想做的是什麼?
--> I am sick now, what should i do ? Rest ==

8. 用一个字形容自己
--> Lavender

9. 你的梦想?
--> Become a dancer

10. 现在最希望的事?
--> Do well at SPM

11. 十年以后，你想过什麼样的生活? 你打算如何实现呢?
--> Great life. Hardworking

12. 接下来最想去旅行的国家或城市? 为什么?
--> Anywhere. Because I like travel

13. 你为什么要回答这些问题?
--> For fun =)

14. 怕不怕世界末日?
--> Nope

15. 什麼时候觉得孤独?
--> Friend are leaving

16. 最近一次掉眼泪是?
--> Fighting

17. 想对点你名的人说的话?
--> Thank you

18. 家人重要还是伴侣重要?
--> Both

19. 选择男朋友的条件？?
--> When I have this guys, I would tell you

20. 现在有喜欢的对象吗?
--> Not important

LaVenDer